most frequent complaints men have about
internet dating are that women don't respond to their
ads or their e.mail. You can avoid both these problems
by following a few simple guidelines while writing both
your free ad and your responses to womens' ads.
ad which has generated several hundred responses
in a few short months!
- How to Write Effective Personal Ads
The fastest way to ruin what might have been a beautiful
friendship is to lie. Hide the fact that you are a single
father of 5 year-old triplets, and miss a chance to find
the woman who wants to love them and share your parental
will always be caught sooner or later. Allow others to
make informed decisions about what they will and will
not accept, based on an honest representation of yourself.
a fit person you would likely be disappointed to learn
that the woman you've been writing for the last month
weighs 250 pounds, and not l25 as stated. She may feel
likewise to learn you are the U.S. president, and not
the sole object of your adoration!
truthful and avoid the pain, heartache, disappointment
and separation caused by dishonesty. Open yourself to
incredible happiness by allowing others to love you as
you are, for who you are.
CREATE A 'GRABBER'.
A 'grabber' is an attention-getting headline which stands
out above the rest and demands to be read. There are many,
many 'DWM's, 44, seeking love' out there. Be different,
even if you ARE a 'DWM, 44, seeking love'.
out the competition. What attracts your attention to their
ads? Note those which stand out have clarity and are original,
personal, and direct. What can you say about yourself
in a single sentence which makes you irresistible to the
you truly seek love and long-term commitment, comments
here about length, size and shape of 'physical' attributes
are a turn-off to women who seek men of intellectual,
emotional, and spiritual substance. Pornographic headlines
are not accepted into the database. If you are well-endowed
with a fabulous sense of humour, use it! Nothing attracts
so quickly as laughter and goodwill.
You know who you are and what you want..tell them about
it! Almost everyone seems to enjoy 'moonlit walks, candlelight
dinners, and strolls on the beach'. Be specific about
values held and sought, in addition to naming hobbies
and interests. If you know your soulmate is a Buddhist,
say so. If you are adamant about remaining childless,
convey that too. State your willingness to travel. The
woman in Paris may not respond when she notes you live
in Rio, if you fail to mention that geographic location
is no barrier. What is your personal mantra? Share it.
The woman who understands and appreciates it best, is
the one who will reply.
Let your natural exuberance and zest for life shine through
in your writing. Negativity repels. You may elicit an
offer from a counselling service if you project a woebegone,
or suicidal attitude, but you probably won't attract your
BEST FOOT FORWARD.
You wouldn't (hopefully) show up on a first date unwashed
and unkempt, would you? Likewise, if your spelling skills
are somewhat lacking, consult a dictionary before submitting
your otherwise artfully crafted and well-thought-out ad.
BE HONEST, BE HONEST, BE HONEST. One
aspect which cannot be over-stated!!
Your skillfully written, heartfelt and humourous ad is
complete and posted online, but don't stop there!! Why
wait for someone to seek you out, when you can increase
your chances multi-fold by Joining NZFriendFinder and Responding
to all the women who spark your interest?
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