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"Don't place an ad on the internet until you've checked
with this site!"
Internet
Dating Safety
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Trust Your
Intuition!
It
is often kinder simply not to respond to someone you immediately
know isn't your type, than to cultivate an online relationship
out of politeness and later let them down. If your
online correspondent doesn't answer questions directly,
or omits essential information, trust your better instincts
and find someone you can trust. If you suspect someone
is lying to you,you are probably correct. Don't waste
time trying to elicit the truth from them. Accept that
they are dishonest, and not likely to change. Drop
correspondence with those who do not accept or question
your feelings. Relationships are built on honesty, respect
and acceptance. Settle for nothing less!
Trouble-shooting
Do
not reply to mean-spirited and nasty e.mail. With luck,
ignoring the sender will send them and their desperate
attempts for attention elsewhere. If not, save their
e.mails and forward them to your ISP or their ISP and
ask them for help to get the person to cease and desist.
If you've released no identifying information about yourself
to this person, use a mail filter to send their trash,
to the trash.
Cyber-stalking-
Please read the Cyber-Stalking article by CyberAngels.
CyberAngels.com. Cyberangel's primary goal is to educate new and inexperienced
users in all aspects of Internet safety awareness.
Get
References before Meeting Off-line
Ask
for references from your friend's work, friends and family.
Honest people will have no objection to this request,
and will appreciate that you are 'playing it smart and
safe'. Verify their place of employment. For example,
if they tell you they are an 'internationally published
author', ask for titles and publishers and confirm their
assertion. If you are unable to verify any details
about your online buddy, trust your better judgement and
move on.
Background Checks
Before sharing intimate information with anyone on-line,
confirm that the person you are dealing with, is the
person they say they are. There are services available
for checking backgrounds, please use them! Trust me,
it is a disappointing shock to learn that your on-line
amour is living abroad because he is 'wanted'by the
authorities in the States! :(
CheckMate-
Checkmate advertises as being the first Internet
Background Resource designed especially for dating singles.
CheckMate empowers you with the background resources
needed to check the credibility of someone you havejust
met.
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